10 Steps to Resilience Hub

As parents and carers , it can be easy to focus on the things our young people haven't managed to do. They didn't get dressed on time. They didn't finish their homework. They gave up when something was difficult. They didn't behave in the way we hoped they would. And when we are tired, worried or trying to get through a busy day, these things can feel very big. But what if we deliberately started looking for the little wins? Because sometimes, those little moments of progress

Have you ever watched a young person become incredibly upset about something that, to an adult, seems quite small? Perhaps they lose a game and suddenly become furious. Their favourite snack isn't available and they have a meltdown. A friend doesn't want to play with them and they completely withdraw. They are asked to stop playing on a device and suddenly the whole situation feels impossible. As adults it can be easy to think 'Why are they reacting like this?' But before we

'I can't do it.' It's a phrase most parents, carers and teachers will have heard many times. Sometimes it is said before a young person has even tried. Sometimes it comes after they have struggled. Sometimes it is accompanied by frustration, tears, anger or simply giving up. And sometimes, when we hear it repeatedly, it can be difficult not to respond with: 'Yes, you can!' We know they are capable. We can see their potential. We may even know that they have done something sim

No body likes getting things wrong. Whether it's making mistakes at school, losing a game, getting something wrong in front of friends or trying something new and not being very good at it, failure can feel uncomfortable. For young people, those feelings can sometimes be bigger. A mistake can feel like more than just a mistake. It can feel like embarrassment, disappointment, frustration or even proof that they are 'not good enough'. As adults, our instinct is often to protect

As parents, carers and professionals, there are moments when we find ourselves asking: 'Why are they behaving like this?' A young person might suddenly become angry, refuse to do something, shut themselves away, become tearful, argue, lash out, avoid school, refuse to engage or appear completely overwhelmed by something that, from the outside, seems quite small. It can be difficult to understand. It can also be difficult to not take the behaviour personally. But what if we st

When we think about building resilience in young people, we can sometimes focus on what the young person needs to learn or change. We might think about teaching them coping strategies, helping them manage their emotions, encouraging positive thinking or supporting them to overcome challenges. All of these things are important. But there is something that sits underneath all of this that we can sometimes overlook: Resilience doesn't develop in isolation. The relationships and

When we talk about resilience we often hear words like 'bounce back', 'be strong' or 'cope with difficult situations'. But resilience is much more than simply getting through something difficult. Resilience is the ability to adapt, cope, recover and keep going when life doesn't go to plan. It is the skills and support that help us manage challenges, setbacks, change and difficult emotions. For young people, resilience can look very different from one child to anther. One youn